As I sit here making out my Christmas list, I'm trying to remember what I gave for gifts and what I received for gifts last year. I fear that I may repeat the same gifts to a family member, so I call everyone to see what they need.
I love to e-Bay and I was a garage sale junkie for a couple years.
I would see brand new items in boxes marked down to almost nothing. There were crock-pots, dinnerware, and many more novelties.
When I would inquire about the item, most of the sellers just told me it was a gift they received for Christmas and they already own.
Now first of all I would never buy an item at a garage sale for a Christmas gift, but I would resell the item on e-Bay. I wonder how many people would bid on that item and give it as a Christmas gift? So because I feel funny about re-gifting, the gift will go into the garage and in a couple of years when I'm Spring cleaning I'll be surprised to find it and I will enjoy using it.
Usually, I do a handmade item so I know they can't re-gift my gift. I doubt I would find someone giving me socks I made.
Homemade cookies and crafts are something that are appreciated and used and everyone will enjoy.
I do think that if you receive a double gift or something you will never use, donate it to your local Christian thrift store or give it to a charity if you're not sure what to do.
What is the correct etiquette for re-gifting?
I have too much guilt to re-gift, but is it ethical?
I say yes depending on the circumstance.
If you receive two of the same item and you know a friend or family member would love it, give it too them unwrapped and explain you got a double gift.
Here are some rules on re-gifting:
1. You are certain the gift is something the recipient would enjoy.
2. The gift is brand new (no cast-offs allowed) and comes with its original box and instructions.
3. The gift isn't handmade, or one that the original giver took great cares to select.
This should be done rarely and under certain criteria.
I try to love everything I'm given and I appreciate the time and love that's put into the item.
I've heard some funny stories about people that received their item back for a birthday or anniversary gift that was given to them as a Christmas gift.
How do you react when this happens?
What do you say?
"Wow it's just what I wanted," "It's beautiful, I would of picked out the same thing," or 'How thoughtful of you?"
As you drive away, you are wonder if it's the same gift you gave them. You have to be sure you won't hurt anyone's feelings.
Now my feelings won't be hurt, but beware you could receive this gift back again.
This probably won't happen, but as we get older we should be taking notes.
Now what should we do with all those fruitcakes? That's a tough one, but maybe you can put them out for New Year's Day along with the black-eyed peas.
If you receive any Lenox China pieces or Precious Moments that you have no idea what to with, please e-mail me and I will help you with directions to my house.
Kathy Josenhans lives in Port Orange with her husband, Frank, and their German shepherd, Heidi, and a cat named Bogie after Humphrey Bogart. The Josenhans have three grown children. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.